I've been putting this post off, unsure of how I should finish it. But any conclusion is better than not having one right? I encourage you to read Created to be His Helpmeet and The Excellent Wife and Passionate Housewives Desperate for God. The authors not only have more experience but can say it a lot better than I ever can.
So, how was I going to put this thing called "submission" into effect? That was the tough question I had to ponder.
First things first, I let my husband be the leader of our family.
Sounds simple enough, but how many of us really do it? I was willing to let my husband "lead" if he was leading the way I thought he should. I was quick to criticize and judge.
I won't lie, this first step, the step of letting go was.......hard.
Everything in my sinful nature screamed, "No! Don't do it! He doesn't know what he's doing! He will take advantage of the situation! You'll be a doormat!"
Doormat. How I hate that term. And I hate it because I've heard it so often.
As in, "She doesn't stand up to her husband. She's just a doormat."
Please don't confuse following your husband's lead with pretending your husband is God. That is not what submission is about. God is God. He is over you and your husband. You must follow God first and then the husband he has given you to follow. In matters that are apparently against God, who do you follow? God, people, you follow God!
Okay, I got off on a little bit of a tangent. Ahem. Sorry, back to your regularly scheduled post............
I believe the problem many of us have with trusting our husbands to lead our family does not lie with our husbands but our seeming inability to trust God. Letting God be Lord over every aspect of your life is something that is not only best for you but required by the Word.
It all boils down to: Do you trust God? The answer can not be "Yes, but......" or "Yes except for...." Not to say that at times it won't be a struggle, I fail at putting all my trust in God quite frequently, but He's always there to remind me that He is Lord.
Do you allow God to be the Lord of your life? That is what submission is all about.
Sorry I rushed through this post, I had imagined something far more detailed. Perhaps I'll revisit the subject with more tips on how to actually show honor to our husbands. Right now my mind is full of other topics: child discipline, elder care, sacrificing for others, and the most wonderful.....baptism. How gracious is the Lord that He called my husband and I to follow him mostly at the same time. how wonderful that we are to be baptized, a physical sign of the washing of our sins by the grace of Jesus Christ. "Blessed be the Lord, who daily bears our burden, the od who is our salvation" Psalms 68:19